What does it mean?
When you decide to tell people that you are transgender this is called ‘Coming Out’. This is always a good place to start as what you are about to do will not only effect your life but those close to you as well. There really is no best way or right/wrong way of ‘Coming Out’. Once you have made the decision to tell other people, you want to think about what your going say to them.
Why Come out?
You have had these feeling for so long and you know inside that this is what you need to do, but there will come a point when you need to speak to someone about it, even if they just listen. If you are wanting support before you make the decision to tell your friends and family there are some groups on our ftm support groups page that will be of help to you.
Just remember that you don’t have to rush into coming out, only you will know when your ready to tell people.
What will they say?
The most worrying part is going to be the reactions from people (and we always think the worst). You may find that they are full of questions, very supportive or may not know how to react. They could even surprise you and already know. Think about what they may say so you can explain to them why you need to do this.
Who to tell first?
Maybe start with a close friend first if you feel you aren’t ready to tell your parents. If you find that talking to them is too difficult try writing them a letter. There may be some confusion or misunderstanding of what you are doing so be patient and don’t rush them. Be prepared for lots of questions.
Some of us will find it easier to tell people than others. I struggled with finding the right words, right time, being prepared inside for what people might say etc. I am very lucky to have the partner I do as she recognised my struggle and was the one that told family and friends. They were all very supportive and some were actually expecting it. I was a bit of a chicken when it came to this I know but when I was ready to tell my mum it didn’t go so well even though I am an adult and I don’t have the best relationship with her I felt that she still needed to know. Believe me the positive responses far out way the negative.