Coming Out as Transgender

I think out of all the things we need to do while we are transitioning, I find that ‘Coming Out as Transgender’ is the most difficult, as you don’t know what the reactions are going to be from people.

Just remember that you aren’t alone and there is always someone who can help support you, whether this be a close friend/family member or an online group.

When you decide to tell people that you are transgender this is ‘Coming Out’. This is always a good place to start as what you are about to do will not only affect your life but those that are close to you as well.

There really is no best way or right/wrong way of ‘Coming Out’. Once you have made the decision to tell other people, you want to think about what you’re going to say to them.

You have had these feelings for so long and you know inside that this is what you need to do, but there will come a point when you need to speak to someone about it, even if they just listen. If you are wanting support before you make the decision to tell your friends and family there are groups on our FtM Transitioning Support page that will be of help to you.

Just remember that you don’t have to rush into Coming Out, only you will know when you’re ready to tell people.

Maybe start with a close friend first if you feel you aren’t ready to tell your parents. If you find talking to them is too difficult try writing them a letter. There may be some confusion or misunderstanding of what you are doing so be patient and don’t rush them. Be prepared for lots of questions.

Some of us will find it easier to tell people than others. I struggled with finding the right words, right time, being prepared inside for what people might say etc. I am very lucky to have the partner I do as she recognised my struggle and was the one that told family and friends. They were all very supportive and some were actually expecting it.

I was a bit of a chicken when it came to this, I know. But when I was ready to tell my mum it didn’t go so well, even though I am an adult and I don’t have the best relationship with her I felt she still needed to know.

Believe me the positive responses far out way the negative.